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How big is big enough?

August 11th, 2009 at 04:28 pm

I've heard a few times now from others that my husband and I live in a very tiny house; essentially a "starter home". Our home is 1,260 sq. feet with 3 bedrooms, 1 full bath, dining room, living room, kitchen and an additional 350 sq ft finished basement. At a little over 1600 square feet of livable space I don't think we'll have any problems when we have our 1st child. Am I being naive?

The only issue I see with even 2 children is the bathroom situation might get a little difficult. We are thinking about paying cash for a family room addition in a few years (and trying to do most of the work ourselves) that would include a half bath in it. Is it so ridiculous that my husband and I plan to stick it out and try to pay off this house in 15 years while raising a family? Sorry to rant, but hearing the word "starter home" makes me feel like people are implying we're a failure for not moving to something big and grandiose once we have kids.

19 Responses to “How big is big enough?”

  1. anonymouse Says:
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    my 3 siblings and I grew up in a 1000 sq ft home with 1 bathroom. I don't think I'm psychologically screwed up from that. Of course, most of our time was spent outside.

  2. monkeymama Says:
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    Oh boy!

    Since when was 1600 sf a "starter home"? Since we come from an expensive area we hardly know anyone back home with more than 1300 sf. (No basements). & Land? Forget it...

    I think it's time to tune MIL out. You'll be FINE!

  3. Ima saver Says:
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    I started out with a smaller home and NO furniture but I had it paid off by age 32 and we have not had a mortgage since. (And I live in a real big house now)

  4. M E 2 Says:
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    I grew up in a closer to 2000 square foot home with only 1 bathroom (it was an older house to begin with) and there were 6 of us. My parents and 4 kids.....we all survived just fine.

    That's why I *love* to watch all the house buying related shows on HGTV. The people who bitch about th e bathroom that is 20X20 and the half bath that is 10x10 and woes them, the bathrooms are just too small. @@


    Apparently, I am/have been using the bathroom for all the WRONG reasons.






  5. MomEsq Says:
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    I live in a house that sounds a lot like yours: 3 bedrooms (although one is too small for a full size adult), 1 full bath (with just a medicine cabinet for storage), a half bath downstairs, kitchen, dining room, living room and what we call the den, or a family room. No finished basement. I have two boys under the age of 5. It is very do-able. For us, the hardest part has been having the boys share a room.

    In my opinion -stick with the smaller house! Less to clean, less to baby-proof, less to maintain, and more wiggle room for the future.

  6. Mrs Says:
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    I have to interject here speaking from experience. DH and I had four children and two dogs in a 900 square foot house with a basement. We had three kids in one bedroom, us in the smallest room, and the baby in the 3rd bedroom/dining room for the first few months. (I had four children in six years at that point).

    The benefits to a small house:
    (1) You always know where your kids are.
    (2) You cannot acquire a lot crap/clutter because there simply isn't room
    (3) This small house had a small mortgage and I was able to stay home and not worry about money.

    Granted by the time that #4 outgrew his basinette at about five months we moved on to a house three times as large. We've been here for five years and have added another child to the mix. We still travel in a herd/pack/group/clan in this big house. My kids share rooms and can get along well in small spaces.

    We definitely didn't need this large of a house.

    I think you are fine, even with two kids, in your present situation. Just my opinion ...

  7. Broken Arrow Says:
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    Wow, I agree. That's massive to me.

    But then, my mom thinks that way too. She thinks her house is only just big enough, and her house is like 2000 sq ft. or more. Two floors, tons of bedrooms.

    Me, I'd be happy in a closet.

  8. Caoineag Says:
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    I think your home is just fine. We have 1684 sq ft and we only live out of the top 864 sq ft. We consider our home spacious.

  9. thewealthbuilder Says:
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    Resist the urge to buy up unless it's absolutely necessary. If your family stays small, you will have plenty of room. Even if you have another kid, it can work. We are a family of 3 living in our "starter" home for 10 years now. Good news is we will own our house by the time our daughter goes off to college. Freedom, freedom, freedom. Closeness in a family is a good thing.

  10. Nika Says:
    1250022949

    Ahh, that sounds luxuriously spacious to me! All is comparitive.

  11. ceejay74 Says:
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    As I said in a previous comment, I plan on having two kids and three adults in a 2-bedroom, 950-square-foot home. It's frugal and it's more environmentally sound. Stick with your house and be proud of your decision.

    It sounds like you're examining each baby expense to see if it's necessary, which is GREAT! There are several helpful articles to be found online that can dispense with other mythical "needs" and help you save valuable money.

  12. disneysteve Says:
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    There is no such thing as a "starter home."

    That is a marketing term cooked up by the real estate industry to convince people into thinking that they constantly need to upgrade and move to a bigger place every few years, each time they have a kid, etc. Do you know that the average new home today is about two and a half times the size of the average new home in 1970 even though the average family size is smaller. It is insane.

    Your home is fine. I grew up in a row home in Philadelphia. I don't know the square footage, but there were 4 of us with 1 bathroom also. We managed just fine.

  13. whitestripe Says:
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    it's all comparative, really. our house, our first home, is roughly 2700 square feet. there are two of us now, but i wouldn't have any problem having a few kids and living here. we have one bathroom and one toilet also. it is funny, i think bedroom space is more important than an extra bathroom or toilet. i would rather my children had their own rooms, even if they were very small, than have an extra bathroom or toilet.

  14. Broken Arrow Says:
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    Found out my mother's house is 2700 sq. ft. Big Grin

    As far as houses go, it's the quality not the size that matters to me.

  15. guppy Says:
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    Thanks for all the comments! I'm feeling much better now Smile

  16. LuxLiving Says:
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    My inlaws raised 5 kids in a 800 sq. footer, so I think you're fine!

  17. Jerry Says:
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    We are living overseas (in a fair-sized apartment... for SE Europe), but our house back in the States is about 1200 sf. We had our daughter there and it was FINE. (People make the most asinine assumptions about how much space is required for living!) That 1200 sf house is bigger than most of the houses I grew up in, and we had six kids in my family. As long as you decide what is right for you, and don't let other people's shallow and materialistic opinions influence you, you will have insurance that you'll be as happy as can be. Good luck!
    Jerry

  18. suhrid shreya Says:
    1253181583

    i have grown up in a 1500 sq ft home . i barely explored the areas other than my cozy corner in my room . ur kid will b fine as even a 6 year old actually lives in his/her huge wonderland. all they need is a nice cozy place to sit and creatively imagine a beautiful world (atleast it works for me)

  19. cptacek Says:
    1266647060

    Ha! We had 7 kids/2 parents in a house with one bathroom. Oldest sister moved to college when kid #8 was born, and I was in college when kid #9 was born.

    People used to live in tents and teepees with three generations living there. I think you will be fine.

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