G is 2 years and 4 months. I'm 28 and T is 30.
What age difference is between your children? (or you and your siblings?) I know there is no *right* answer, just wondering about other's thoughts.
We were waiting concerning trying for another kid until our debts were paid. So maybe August 2013? Assuming it takes 6 months, G could end up being almost 4 years older than her sibling.
I've never had an issue with this since my brother and I are 6 years apart and I feel reasonably close to him. We don't talk all the time but we're there for each other when we need it. T on the other hand is only 16 months apart from his sister and in the last 13 years I've known him they've never been close. I think it's more personality than age difference but who knows.
Something to mull over at least..
Age difference between siblings
February 5th, 2013 at 07:45 pm
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DH is only child. I have one sib 4.5 years younger, not much in common with him; we're friendly but in different stations in life. My kids are:
Girl
12 month gap
Girl
3 year gap
Boy
18 month gap
Boy
15 month gap
Boy
So that was five surviving children (would have been six had we not had a difficult loss in the three year gap) There were also several miscarriages, and we hope to adopt, but our youngest is already eight, so I'd ideally like a sibling group (younger than 3).
Good luck!
So that is five kids in
February 5th, 2013 at 08:12 pm 1360095135
Girl
12 month gap
Girl
3 year gap
Boy
18 month gap
Boy
15 month gap
Boy
So that was five surviving children in seven (would have been six had we not had a difficult loss in the three year gap) There were also several miscarriages, and we hope to adopt, but our youngest is already eight, so I'd ideally like a sibling group (younger than 3).
Good luck!
So that is five kids in
February 5th, 2013 at 08:19 pm 1360095558
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I'm the baby of my family, and there was a 10-year gap between me and my "youngest" sibling. My 3 sisters were 3 years apart from one another and pretty close friends. My brother was 4 years older than the oldest girl and he's not very close to the rest of us.
I get along great with my sisters; they have each been involved in my life at different times. The oldest was like a second mother to me, and the other two were great advisers when I was in my awkward pubescent and maturing phases. Still, I do sometimes wonder if I'd have a closer relationship if we were closer in age.
Then again, my husband and his sister are only 2 or 3 years apart and aren't terribly close; they get along, but don't go out of their way to speak very often or anything. Apparently they have a better relationship now than when they were younger and actually lived together!
February 5th, 2013 at 08:48 pm 1360097290
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My husband is one of 7...he's number 5. All about 2 years apart, plus or minus a few months. He is closest two his two younger sisters. His brother are 4+ years apart and get along, but not very close.
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February 6th, 2013 at 03:13 am 1360120439
I also don't think anyone in our families were so close in age for college - I suppose my spouse was 2 years apart in school years, though 3 years apart in calendar years. He was born just after the cutoff/his sister just before. I may luck out because eldest will likely graduate early (though mostly that freaks me out financially). I am more set on "you guys can go to community college years 1 & 2" probably because of their closeness in age. Is not a huge big deal because college is generally pretty inexpensive where we live. AND having a built-in roommate sounds pretty sweet to me. IF they still like each other and actually go to school in the same vicinity - which who knows...
Beyond all that, I don't think most people I know and in our family had kids when we wanted. I can't say having our kids so close in age was our first choice, but we had an "ideal age range" and started on the early side, just a hoping! I am not sure I would have been so gung ho if I knew I'd get pregnant right away, to term and everything. But I do like the way it turned out - was just best for us. & sometimes things turn out "best" when they don't go your way, it seems.
February 6th, 2013 at 04:26 am 1360124798
I think the most important thing is to encourage them to love each other no matter the age gap. I mean, when my son was born I would always make comments about how much he loved my daughter whenever he would grab her finger or laugh at her or follow her around the room with his eyes. I really played it up and I let her hold him almost whenever she wanted. And by the time he was old enough to understand what the words I love you meant, she was saying it to him all the time and he just naturally responded.
As for me, my oldest sister is 11 years older than me and my middle sister is 6 years older than me. I was never close to the eldest although in the last couple of years things have gotten better. I was close to my middle sister when we were younger, but we aren't really close now (though I am close with 3 of her children). My husband and his sister are 2 years apart and they fought a lot as kids but were also close and are very close now. I am closer to his sister than I am to either of mine.
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February 8th, 2013 at 07:27 pm 1360351638
we have a boy and a girl (now teens) exactly 2 years apart (yes, same birthday)
they do not do ANYTHING together socially
i fully assume they will be close in the future because we are a pretty supportive family all around
btw, I am an 'Honorary Mother of Twins' imo
February 10th, 2013 at 03:44 pm 1360511068
My kids are 3 and 4, 19 months apart. We chose to have the second relatively quickly for several reasons. I wanted to be 35 or under when he was born, to avoid the high-risk pregnancy category. We also wanted to just jump in and do all the hard work of baby and toddlerhood all at once. We didn't like the idea of going through all that, sending one of to kindergarten, and then starting all over again. We wanted to condense those years and just get them over with and both off to school in a relatively close time together. We also really wanted them to be close emotionally and physically, rather than the age gap from my own childhood.
So far, it's worked out. The kids do not remember ever being without each other, and they play together all day. They fight, sure, but they have a built in best friend, and we like that.
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Jerry
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